If I were to describe the causes of same sex attraction and how it differs from love, it is the marriage of two factors shame and envy. The Qur’an already calls homosexual relationships as lust (7:81). And we all know that lust isn’t love, its a temporary, physical desire for gratification of animalistic desires, bereft of true emotional connection - which is love.
For this post, I will talk about envy.
Envy can be due to a variety of reasons
-Fear of others doing better
The Prophet (sawa) has said envy devours faith as fire consumes wood, such that we are even forgiven for something done in anger but not in envy.
Why? Because we reject Allah’s blessings that He has bestowed on us. Many people love reciting Surah Rahman in which we hear “So which of the favors of your Lord would you deny?”.
In this statement, we realise that we always want that which we can’t have or more than what we currently have. The Prophet (sawa) said " If the son of Adam had a mountain of gold he would wish for another."
The opposite to envy is contentment and therefore the opposite to same sex envy is self acceptance.